During their growth and development, children go through many stages of self-doubt. They often compare themselves to others, and end up underestimating themselves. This develops a habit of negative thinking which can affect their future. As parents, you can offset this natural tendency in your children by helping them become self-confident, positive individuals. It is important that you really listen to your children, and help them overcome their negative thoughts and beliefs. This is, of course, easier to do if you practice positive thinking yourself. So start presenting your thoughts in a positive way.
Here are some typical negative statements from children, along with some positive responses from their parents which you can also opt:
Child - I can't do it.
Parent - Take your time and try again. I have confidence in you.
Child - That teacher hates me.
Parent - I know you want your teacher to like you. Remember that you're a very lovable kid and a great person, no matter what teacher, or anyone else, says or does. And, you know, she may have a problem that has nothing to do with you. You keep doing right deeds and one day she will stop hating you.
Parent - I know you want your teacher to like you. Remember that you're a very lovable kid and a great person, no matter what teacher, or anyone else, says or does. And, you know, she may have a problem that has nothing to do with you. You keep doing right deeds and one day she will stop hating you.
Child - I'm just no good in history.
Parent - You've brought up Cs before-I know you can do it again. Besides that, honey, nobody is good at everything. And look at this A in math, you've always done well with numbers!
Parent - You've brought up Cs before-I know you can do it again. Besides that, honey, nobody is good at everything. And look at this A in math, you've always done well with numbers!
Child - I'm so clumsy. I'll never learn to ride bicycle!
Parent - It's tough learning something new. Remember when you first tried to ski, how hard it was? But you stuck with it, and now you're really good at skiing.
Parent - It's tough learning something new. Remember when you first tried to ski, how hard it was? But you stuck with it, and now you're really good at skiing.
There is real value in discussing positive thinking and self-esteem with your children on a regular basis. Sadly, our world is so full of negative feedback. We need to arm our children with a positive attitude, so that they can stay focused in the right direction.
I encourage you to think of your child’s mind like a garden. Each day you want to help them weed their negative thoughts and plant positive thoughts.
One day of weeding and planting won’t do much. Nourish your child with lots of love and positive energy and you shall see the fruits of your efforts. :)
I liked this one very much. Good work Ashima! I think its important to be gentle and be positive with your child and speak kindly of others in their presence. Its also important to make your child feel wanted and secure.Make sure you fulfill all your small and big promises made to them. This will reflect well on them in their growing years. Keep Writing !!
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